Fairfax Cryobank (as well as CLI, which was bought out by Fairfax recently), one of the nation's largest sperm banks, has a nasty little secret.....they hate donors. That's right, they hate them.
You see, most sperm banks today acknowledge that many donors who may have signed one of those elusive "confidentiality agreements" when they were 18 year old boys often change their minds and become curious about the children they sired and sold later on down the road - often after the birth of their own children they raise. And many clinics/banks will be helpful and sometimes overly ambitious to help these donors make contact with their genetic children. In most cases this is providing retired donors with their correct donor number (that is, the donor number that is used in the catalogs and provided to recipients, and not some "other" number). Some will even give them information about the DonorSiblingRegistry, or even reach out to recipients in some rare instances.
However, Fairfax Cryobank does none of that. Actually, they completely forbid it.
According to their website:
It is completely unethical for an institution to deny the men they recruited to keep their business alive something that is so vital for all parties involved. They are not giving donor numbers to men who do not ask and do not want contact with offspring. They are not giving the name and address of donors to recipient parents. All that they are doing is denying retired donors any chance at knowing their own children.
I am truly at a loss for words at how outraged I am about this. While Fairfax might play god in creating children, apparently they also believe they ARE GOD!!! Denying this information to consenting retired donors is a gross exaggeration of their own power and self-importance.
Fairfax is a prime example why legislation MUST be forthcoming in the US to regulate the infertility industry, since they do not have the decency or integrity to do it themselves.
To make matters worse, Fairfax also gets a big fat F for honesty as well. Numerous Fairfax clients have pointed out that they were told that the donor they chose met certain educational criteria (i.e. having a PhD and/or MD degree for example) and when the recipient later finds the donor without the aid of FC they discover the donor did not in fact have such an educational background, and often were completely UNEDUCATED!! Not to say that many doctors offices and clinics don't do the same thing, but that is changing information from a 3rd party - such as telling a patient the donor was a medical student when they doctor really has no clue because he bought the sperm from a sperm bank. That is very different from the sperm bank lying on the donor's profile to make him sound better than he is.
Does this also mean that Fairfax hides other vital pieces of information about their donors from clients??? I'd bet if they are lying about something as mundane as education, they're sure as hell lying about medical histories as well!! Oh, so your donor had 20/20 vision and all his parents and grandparents are alive and kicking?? Maybe, maybe not. I'm sure if Fairfax had their way (which they do, apparently), that said profile might come from a donor who is legally blind and both his parents died young of heart attacks or cancer. How are you going to find out??? Right, you're NOT. Because Fairfax refuses to even let their donors seek out their own children.
So any lies are just a few dirty little secrets......
I think it's about time that we, as adult offspring, recipient parents, and former and current donors --- the DC triad --- make a stand and demand that Fairfax Cryobank air out their dirty laundry and come clean about these appalling accusations. We must demand that the infertility industry can no longer "regulate themselves" and continually lie and cheat their way to a multi-billion dollar a year income on the tears and pain of those most directly affected by their unethical business practices.