Last week I was contacted out of the blue by a producer of a national morning show wanting me to come on the show. My initial reaction was “oh my god!!” because I realized that going on national TV might be the only way I could draw attention to siblings and possibly my biological father. But then I realized that I would have a heck of a lot of explaining to do to my parents, who already disagreed with the several instances I was featured in the media for my search, but I figured I was going to do it because it was a once in a lifetime chance. So the producer called me later that evening and in the middle of discussing my story she asked if I had a close relationship with my donor……….shit!!!!
Apparently she was under the impression that I had already found the donor, and that’s what she wanted the show to be about. So when she realized I still hadn’t found anyone she started changing the subject, asking me if I knew of any offspring and donors who would go on the show, etc. I was quite disheartened to say the least, but unfortunately it’s not uncommon for those of us less “sensationalized” offspring who haven’t got any matches.
So why is it that the media has a preoccupation with the “success stories” of donor conception?! I was watching another episode of this morning show which featured a sibling reunion, and the way it was portrayed was that everybody found siblings on the DSR!!! The media in general focuses on all the happy happy joy joy aspects of donor conception and rarely if ever even mention the losses involved, or the ethical issues concerned.
I think it’s about time for the media to wake up and realize that our stories are just as important, if not more important than all the feel good stories!! For one, it gives the impression that all offspring are happy, and have no ill feelings, and that everybody gets what they want. Not once do the talk about the reunions and the siblings and parent-child relationships that have been lost for years – time that cannot ever be made up.
So to the media who only wants to see the fairytale happy endings, shame on you!!! Why don’t you step up and do your job as journalists and actually report the TRUTH?!?!?