tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post5891571710639232609..comments2024-02-16T03:22:26.527-05:00Comments on Confessions of a Cryokid: The pink elephant in the roomLindsayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00120794007899168522noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-56746122628673192872011-08-13T15:41:57.506-04:002011-08-13T15:41:57.506-04:00More and more I think IVF has not worked out. I se...More and more I think IVF has not worked out. I see alot of manipulation of the child to feel grateful which is not loving and let alone respectful. Wanted and loved is the adult's mantra, but these children are not even respected.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-80392103215544938372011-07-30T00:41:46.685-04:002011-07-30T00:41:46.685-04:00Great post!
Kids do sometimes change things. If ...Great post!<br /><br />Kids do sometimes change things. If anything, having kids made me more of an ingrate hehe :-)The Declassified Adopteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16726376584015902627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-5312590904556810712011-07-29T05:14:21.525-04:002011-07-29T05:14:21.525-04:00Hi Lindsay
I liked your post a lot too. When you ...Hi Lindsay<br />I liked your post a lot too. When you said that donor conceived and adoptees are the only ones who understand what its like to feel how you do I thought there is an underrepresented group that needs attention:<br />Quasi marital children. Actually most people who call themselves donor conceived are just quasi marital children, hijacked into the family of their mother's marilynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16636038698826761202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-59755393943300099572011-07-28T09:13:27.918-04:002011-07-28T09:13:27.918-04:00really great post Lindsay.really great post Lindsay.rachelispolishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02881308682566970024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-26832005682540626932011-07-27T19:31:10.236-04:002011-07-27T19:31:10.236-04:00http://familyscholars.org/2011/07/27/confessions-o...http://familyscholars.org/2011/07/27/confessions-of-a-cryokid-the-pink-elephant-in-the-room/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-11789055012915262412011-07-26T09:23:46.868-04:002011-07-26T09:23:46.868-04:00Syeds,
I was not pointing them out specifically t...Syeds,<br /><br />I was not pointing them out specifically to criticize her -- I find myself doing the exact same thing when I post on DI mommies boards. It's a reaction that we find ourselves forced to deliver in those circumstances, and many offspring don't even realize they are doing it or why they are doing it. They truly believe that they should feel grateful to be alive, nevermindLindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00120794007899168522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-8677437509100048912011-07-26T07:28:47.014-04:002011-07-26T07:28:47.014-04:00Pointing out something and explaining someone come...Pointing out something and explaining someone comes under criticizing only;. <br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.sampleanalysis.net/" rel="nofollow">Sample Analysis</a>syedshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12555667882791359184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-41468383251174507112011-07-26T00:17:04.842-04:002011-07-26T00:17:04.842-04:00I was so glad to come across this post because I j...I was so glad to come across this post because I just completed my Masters thesis work on Genetic Orphans (those children conceived of dual donors) and I had a large section on the reasons for and against disclosure. I had a great time reading it and you make some interesting points, some of which were covered in my research. Thanks for a provoking read.Jillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05319864191050860078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-42808732404285370012011-07-25T22:21:47.353-04:002011-07-25T22:21:47.353-04:00Anonymous,
No I don't have kids yet, and like...Anonymous,<br /><br />No I don't have kids yet, and like Damian said having children of your own can change your mind about things. I guess I'm still not sure why that should make a difference though, or do you think I don't appreciate my mother's decision because I am not a mother? <br /><br />I dont think we need to constantly reaffirm that we love our parents and that we areLindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00120794007899168522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-19132205750879876072011-07-25T20:16:37.588-04:002011-07-25T20:16:37.588-04:00'The child is unable to conceal this fact to t...'The child is unable to conceal this fact to the world and are often put on a pedestal as a symbol of the rights movement and not given his or her proper space to conceptualize and comprehend their story.' And that is very worrying!<br />Does it not bother those with children that they will never know their history?Vonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17421069895155350144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-11650867600286362032011-07-25T19:46:06.815-04:002011-07-25T19:46:06.815-04:00Dear Anonymous
things can change for people when t...Dear Anonymous<br />things can change for people when they have children of their own. It did for me. While I used to be happy about my conception it changed when I had my own children. That is not to say the same will happen to everyone, just what happened to me. I have also had to have the discussion of my conception with my eldest as talk turned to families and she asked questions. That was damianhadamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765078467506261737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5203799819583211238.post-38381895679696124832011-07-25T15:23:09.487-04:002011-07-25T15:23:09.487-04:00I am guessing that you do not have kiddos of your ...I am guessing that you do not have kiddos of your own yet. I am donor conceived (and found out at age 34!), but I am wondering if it all shifts when you have kids of your own. I think this was incredibly hard on my parents. And I think you are right about the shame aspect. But, I so appreciate how incredibly wanted I was in this situation. Never a doubt. I am so appreciative, even if I am aAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com